When you’re in the thick of the divorce process, it’s hard to see the forest for the trees. But let’s be honest here, you’re getting a divorce because you truly believe that you will be happier if you’re not married. So let me share some things to look forward to after divorce.
I want you to think about how many years it’s been since you had time for yourself. No spouse, no kids, no responsibilities. For most of us married life is full of commitments. We are strapped for time, tired more often than not, and under a lot of pressure to make a complicated family situation work. Not all of that will go away just because you’re getting a divorce but you better believe the volume will be turned down a bit. You might feel a little lonely but the truth is that you’re going to have a lot more time to yourself. What will you do with it? Maybe it’s time to take a dance class or look into a local meetup group. You now have the challenge and opportunity to find your way back to yourself.
It’s easy to underestimate the value of having your own space. But think about it, you’ve been sharing your office, garage, and kitchen for so long. It might feel good to arrange your space exactly how you want it without having to negotiate with someone else.
Admit it, you’ve always wondered how it would feel to totally sprawl across your queen or king size bed to sleep. Now you can. You also don’t have to work around someone else’s sleep schedule or odd sleep habits. Your sleep is entirely your own again.
#4 Control of the Remote
It seems like a little thing, but you can now spend all day watching whatever you want. Say Yes to the Dress marathon? Why not? All the playoff games you fit into your day? There’s no one there to stop you!
#5 Money Battles
Every couple fights about money at some point. Finally now there’s an end to the conflict. Gone are the days when you need to run everything by your spouse first. Keep in mind though, that you still need to make good financial decisions and you should probably run your post-divorce budget by a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst.
Divorce is really hard, but there are some things to look forward to after divorce. Start focusing on the good and you’ll see your way through this faster. You get to build the life you want now. Make the most of this second chance!